Seven Speaking Tips That Beat “Pretend Your Audience Is Naked”
Guest blog from Harry Beckwith
Harry Beckwith has led major marketing initiatives for 14 Fortune 100 companies, including Target, Wells Fargo, Merck and IBM, work that has won the American Marketing Association’s highest award. His book Selling the Invisible was named one of the top ten business and management books of all time and spent an unprecedented 36 consecutive months on the Business Week bestseller list. His more recent books, The Invisible Touch and What Clients Love, have also sold very well in the United States. Using real-life examples of successful groundbreaking strategies he has developed, Beckwith provides the practical steps needed to establish and nurture enduring relationships with customers.
Once upon a time, I suffered from glossophobia.
This affliction touches billions. It’s the fear of public speaking, even to a tiny group.
I conquered it by discovering what makes people smile, nod, and listen carefully, because nothing calms you down faster than an interested audience.
This is what I’ve learned.
People love stories. Children plea for them at night, and adults crave them, too. Stories make us wonder; we want to know what happens next, which keeps us engaged, even enthralled.
People don’t want to be impressed. They want to be respected. Rookie speakers feel tempted to impress an audience, assuming that this will make their ideas sound impressive, too. But if your words or actions suggest “I am better than you,” people won’t care what you say.
This principle also underlies another rule of effective speaking: Dress like your audience, but just a little bit better.”
Don’t try to impress them. Try to touch them.
People care if. If you truly want to help your listeners–by informing or motivating them, or improving their lives–they will care and listen. But they will care only if you do.
This recalls a favorite tip: “If you really care, notify your face.”
Your eyes mean everything.We mistrust people who won’t look us in the eyes–even if our eyes are among over 200 sets in a room. We regard peoples’ eyes as windows to their souls, and it’s from our eyes that people assess us.
If you look each person in the eye for a few seconds, you make each person feel important–a feeling that every person craves. It also makes each audience member feel involved; it makes your presentation feel like a conversation rather than a recitation.
For this reason, minimize visual aids. They break eye contact and make it appear that you are talking to the screen and not to your listeners.
Look them in the eyes.
Preparation matters. But not for the reason you suspect. Preparation does more than make a presentation appear polished–and a too-polished presentation actually can feel inauthentic, even souless. If you’ve spent hours learning about the people to whom you are speaking, you will communicate the most compelling message you can deliver to a person: You are important to me.
If it’s worth saying, it bears repeating. The old rule–“Tell them what you are going to tell them, then tell them, then tell them what you told them”–reflects the limitations of our memories. Plus researchers have shown repeatedly that people are more apt to believe something they hear more than once-–even if they hear it from the same person, and even if they question that person’s credibility.
People love music. An outstanding speech is musical; it ebbs and flows, hits a variety of notes, and makes beautiful use of pauses and silence. Just as in humor, speaking’s key ingredient is timing.
Allow some gaps between your notes.
Obey The Rule of Seven. There’s a reason why only seven principles appear above: Our brains and memories have limits. We can recall seven-digit phone numbers. Throw in an area code, however, and we become helpless. So make no more than seven points. (Recent research suggests that making just three or four points works much better.